I was reading Inside Dark Pixie’s blog entry about her search for her master and started thinking about our (Jonathan and I) most recent experience involving bondage and sadomasochism. Throughout my adult fantasies, I’ve always had fantasies of being submissive. Of giving up all of the things I keep tight control of, and just letting someone else have it briefly in the bedroom. I would fantasize about all the things I wanted done to me. How even how far my legs were spread was up to my partner.
However, that changed with our last girlfriend. She was an old friend of mine and I knew how much fun she could be in bed. She is a true nymphomaniac. You can please her for hours, make her cum multiple times, and she always seems to be ready for more.
Continue reading ‘Sub or Master?’
I have no tolerance for infidelity. None.
A relationship like the one Crystal and I share requires a level of trust and commitment that goes well above and beyond a “normal” marriage. There is no room for infidelity in this relationship, this lifestyle or any polyamorous relationship. Honesty and trust are more essential than ever. Thus, I have never cheated on Crystal and I never will.
However, I am not without sin in this area. I have cheated before, but only once and under situations that were, in a word, unusual. I’m not proud of what I did, but I am big enough to admit my youthful errors and learn from them.
In fact, I think those mistakes may very well have saved my relationship with Crystal.
Continue reading ‘Infidelity Pt. 1 - Love and Lust’
The other day at work, a male co-worker mentioned having porn. Two other ladies in the room were immediately disgusted by this idea and swore that if their husbands ever looked at pornography that they would “throw them out on their asses.” I sat quietly and listened to their conversation. The guy, “F” thought that all men had at least a magazine or two hidden from their wives and the wives of course denied this and just reeled at the thought.
I went up to “F” shortly after the conversation and let him know that I agreed with him that porn is not a horrible thing and that most men do look at it. One of the wives was my boss, so I didn’t want to tick her off at me when I was trying to get hired on permanently. He appreciated the support. For the rest of the day, I wondered, what was it that got these women so angry at the thought of their husband having or looking at porn. Then I came to two realizations.
- One: The women were not upset about the people in porn, they were upset that their husband’s might be hiding the fact that they look at it.
- Two: Some straight women don’t understand porn period
Continue reading ‘Porn: Why most women just don’t get it.’
Growing up I was always shy and quiet. Some people thought I was a snob because of this, but those who took the time to know me knew that that assumption couldn’t be further from the truth. My shy nature always kept me from dating much, in fact I didn’t have my first date until after high school.
So, when it came time for us to start looking for a girlfriend, I knew it wouldn’t be easy. I didn’t have any experience asking girls out and yet it was decided that I would be the one to make the approach, if nothing else than to avoid accidentally surprising girls later. This was a frightening proposition for me. Continue reading ‘Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places’
When Crystal and I started talking about bringing other women into our relationship and our bedroom, we spent a lot of time talking about comfort levels and how we would feel in certain situations.
It was a difficult string of conversations that took place over a few months. We were throwing out “what if” scenarios and trying to decipher, in advance, how we would feel in them. We realized it was impossible to plan our emotions, but we needed some baseline rules before we could move forward. Still, it became obvious quickly that constant communicaiton would be key.
However, during one of these talks, Crystal admitted she had a qualm that confused me at first. She said she was more comfortable with me having sex with another girl than receiving oral. Me giving it didn’t bother her, but she wanted to be the one to give to me.
It seemed to be an unusual , but after I thought about it a second, it made perfect sense.
Continue reading ‘Oral Sex and the Other Woman’
It’s been a heck of a whirlwind week. From the partying at Mardi Gras, to serious conversations with possibly the coolest boss and one of the most interesting women I’ve ever met. Unfortunately, tomorrow is my last day at this dream job. I know the temp service I work for will find something soon, but still, I’ll miss this one.
My boss and I talk a lot about our separate relationships. Yes, she even knows about the unusual relationship Jonathan and I have. It is refreshing to have someone to talk to who doesn’t judge and has a new perspective on things.
She did have some concerns and I’m sure that some of them are thoughts that other people have pondered. The main one was that the relationship was unfair to someone. She wasn’t sure who, but she thought that someone had to be loosing out on something.
I wanted to discuss this in detail here. I also wanted to discuss in more detail Jonathan and my relationship in general.
Continue reading ‘The Fairness (Or Unfairness) of Our Relationship’
Not many places throw a party for the sake of throwing a party and few, if any, do it better than New Orleans. This year’s Mardi Gras was a great one, attendance was on par with pre-Katrina levels, the crowd was wild, but safe, the costumes were insane and there was so much to see and do that there was no way to take it all in.
As locals, we were fortunate enough to be able to enjoy four days of festivities. Since the French Quarter is within easy walking distance of our front door, we thought nothing about popping in for a few hours and leaving before we got too tired to do it again tomorrow.We had a blast every day and are already looking forward to next year’s Mardi Gras.
In the meantime, here’s a look back at what went down each of the days we went out.
Continue reading ‘Mardi Gras 2007 Recap’
I just got done uploading the last of the Mardi Gras photos, for now at least.
There are now 200 photos, 198 to be exact, up of the Mardi Gras festivities spread out over the four days we were on the street. It was a great time and I’m working on a lengthy text wrap up now.
Looking back on Fat Tuesday, we have a lot of great pictures of flashers and beautiful women, but we also really enjoyed the costumes, the people and the decorations. Every Mardi Gras is a parade of freaks more than anything else and the costumes are always incredible and outrageous. Over the course of the day, you will laugh at least once. Don’t take my word for it though, see for yourself.
All in all, Mardi Gras is back! Make no mistake about it. After a rough year last year, this one was business as usual. We look forward to seeing you all next year.
Monday marked Lundi Gras or Mardi Gras Eve. It’s also the first day that the true Mardi Gras crowd hits the streets. It was a great party, lots of costumes, signs, revelry, boobs and beads to be found. We also got a LOT of great pictures of the day’s festivities.
However, sadly, the photos are NOT up at this time. Flickr threw a hissy fit last night and I wasn’t able to get them prepped and up before I caved in to exhaustion. I’m looking into alternatives to get away from Flickr but, in the mean time, we’ll have to wait an extra day or so. Some time Wednesday I should have a massive update of all the Mardi Gras and Lundi Gras pictures along with a more thorough recap.
In the meantime, enjoy the pictures that are up and we’ll see you in the French Quarter!
First off, for all who are interested, there are new Mardi Gras pictures up in the gallery. Once again, these photos include nudity and adult content, please do not visit the gallery if you are not of age or might be offended by such material.
This has already been an incredible Mardi Gras. Though the media is saying the numbers are off slightly from pre-Katrina levels, it feels as good or better than ones we went to in the past. The crowds are huge, the parades are great, people are drinking, dancing and showing skin. Even the unusually cold weather has not been able to slow things down.
Some time after Mardi Gras, probably on Wednesday, we’ll post a much more thorough recap of the festivities, already so many stories to share. In the meantime, we’ll keep posting the pictures as fast as we can get them downloaded, edited and uploaded.
Let us know what you think!
