Comments for The Dating Couple http://www.thedatingcouple.com The tale of Crystal and Jonathan, a bisexual girl and a straight guy, as they explore sex, dating and love in a polyamorous world. Fri, 21 Nov 2008 05:49:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.3 Comment on The Heat Is On… by Hummers, they’re not just for guys anymore… at The Dating Couple http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/05/04/the-heat-is-on/#comment-77 Hummers, they’re not just for guys anymore… at The Dating Couple Sat, 05 May 2007 23:36:23 +0000 http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/05/04/the-heat-is-on/#comment-77 [...] Gallery « The Heat Is On… [...] […] Gallery « The Heat Is On… […]

]]> Comment on Thank You, Fat Chicks and Haunted House by Weight Battle at The Dating Couple http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/01/thank-you-fat-chicks-and-haunted-house/#comment-76 Weight Battle at The Dating Couple Thu, 03 May 2007 04:43:33 +0000 http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/01/thank-you-fat-chicks-and-haunted-house/#comment-76 [...] I mentioned before, I’m not a small woman. However, I wouldn’t look right really thin either. Coming to [...] […] I mentioned before, I’m not a small woman. However, I wouldn’t look right really thin either. Coming to […]

]]> Comment on Stroking At 70 Miles Per Hour by Craiglsist… Or Not at The Dating Couple http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/25/stroking-at-70-miles-per-hour/#comment-75 Craiglsist… Or Not at The Dating Couple Wed, 02 May 2007 04:18:37 +0000 http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/25/stroking-at-70-miles-per-hour/#comment-75 [...] we’ve been having a lot of fun just the two of us, but we still wish we could get out there more. Our lives, however, are kind of on hold until the [...] […] we’ve been having a lot of fun just the two of us, but we still wish we could get out there more. Our lives, however, are kind of on hold until the […]

]]> Comment on Conversations by nina http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/28/conversations/#comment-74 nina Tue, 01 May 2007 00:36:27 +0000 http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/28/conversations/#comment-74 Crystal, <i>"Meaning, I wouldn’t want him to meet someone who he had gotten to know on the internet/phone or wherever without me. [...] He doesn’t understand this viewpoint, but I’m sure someone out there will be able to see my side of it."</i> Yes. I do. Whenever you bring someone else into an existing relationship things ultimately change. We like to think we can emotionally handle the ideas of polyamorous relationships, and while some people can and do, I think most of us have a hard time with this, whether we want to admit it or not. I think that if one or both were to meet someone outside of the existing relationship, and then meet them on your own, and possibly develop feelings for that person, it would be perceived as a threat, because it is. I personally have a hard time with sex without emotional attachment, but that's just me, although I think a lot of women feel the same way. I could be wrong. I think I had a conversation with either you or Jonathan once where I described certain rules which had to be in place before we (meaning my husband and I) could bring Lisa into our relationship. While he has no problem with me being with Lisa on my own, he would have a huge problem with me being with another guy, or perhaps even with another woman, with or without him. Perhaps its how we both view sex and love being intertwined and inseperable from one another. Hard to say. Tho I can also say that I would have a huge problem with him being with another woman too. We're lucky that we found the right balance that works for us, and that would be my advice to any couple that might be thinking about bringing others into their bedrooms. Good luck sweetie! xoxo, nina Crystal,

“Meaning, I wouldn’t want him to meet someone who he had gotten to know on the internet/phone or wherever without me. […] He doesn’t understand this viewpoint, but I’m sure someone out there will be able to see my side of it.”

Yes. I do.

Whenever you bring someone else into an existing relationship things ultimately change. We like to think we can emotionally handle the ideas of polyamorous relationships, and while some people can and do, I think most of us have a hard time with this, whether we want to admit it or not.

I think that if one or both were to meet someone outside of the existing relationship, and then meet them on your own, and possibly develop feelings for that person, it would be perceived as a threat, because it is. I personally have a hard time with sex without emotional attachment, but that’s just me, although I think a lot of women feel the same way. I could be wrong.

I think I had a conversation with either you or Jonathan once where I described certain rules which had to be in place before we (meaning my husband and I) could bring Lisa into our relationship. While he has no problem with me being with Lisa on my own, he would have a huge problem with me being with another guy, or perhaps even with another woman, with or without him. Perhaps its how we both view sex and love being intertwined and inseperable from one another. Hard to say. Tho I can also say that I would have a huge problem with him being with another woman too. We’re lucky that we found the right balance that works for us, and that would be my advice to any couple that might be thinking about bringing others into their bedrooms.

Good luck sweetie!

xoxo,
nina

]]> Comment on Stroking At 70 Miles Per Hour by The Butterfly Temptress http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/25/stroking-at-70-miles-per-hour/#comment-73 The Butterfly Temptress Thu, 26 Apr 2007 16:53:15 +0000 http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/25/stroking-at-70-miles-per-hour/#comment-73 Oh my. Quite the picture you paint, my dear friend. Quite the picture indeed. Love, The Butterfly Temptress Oh my.
Quite the picture you paint, my dear friend. Quite the picture indeed.

Love,
The Butterfly Temptress

]]> Comment on Our First Threesome by The Problem With Threesome Cuddling at The Dating Couple http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/02/14/our-first-threesome/#comment-72 The Problem With Threesome Cuddling at The Dating Couple Mon, 23 Apr 2007 16:32:29 +0000 http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/02/14/our-first-threesome/#comment-72 [...] after our first threesome, I was in a state of pure bliss. Not only had I just had some of the most incredible sex of my [...] […] after our first threesome, I was in a state of pure bliss. Not only had I just had some of the most incredible sex of my […]

]]> Comment on Exciting Times by Crown with Coke, The Condom Debate and Romance at The Dating Couple http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/12/exciting-times/#comment-69 Crown with Coke, The Condom Debate and Romance at The Dating Couple Sun, 15 Apr 2007 17:05:45 +0000 http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/12/exciting-times/#comment-69 [...] Gallery « Exciting Times [...] […] Gallery « Exciting Times […]

]]> Comment on Morning People by The Butterfly Temptress http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/11/morning-people/#comment-68 The Butterfly Temptress Fri, 13 Apr 2007 17:56:48 +0000 http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/11/morning-people/#comment-68 I had my ticket in hand. Then I realized that I too knew my partner. Submission be damned, I needed him and I knew he needed me. Not an easy thing to decide to do after being shot down repeatedly, but I did it. And judging by the writhing, the moans and sighs, not to mention the incredible sleep afterwards, I did it well. Here's to all the yes responses. Much love, The Butterfly Temptress I had my ticket in hand. Then I realized that I too knew my partner. Submission be damned, I needed him and I knew he needed me. Not an easy thing to decide to do after being shot down repeatedly, but I did it. And judging by the writhing, the moans and sighs, not to mention the incredible sleep afterwards, I did it well.

Here’s to all the yes responses.

Much love,
The Butterfly Temptress

]]> Comment on Our First Burlesque Show by Exciting Times at The Dating Couple http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/08/our-first-burlesque-show/#comment-66 Exciting Times at The Dating Couple Fri, 13 Apr 2007 02:27:24 +0000 http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/08/our-first-burlesque-show/#comment-66 [...] other news, we’re heading out tonight to go to the bar where one of the burlesque dancer works a couple of nights a week. She told us she’d be there tonight. So, we’re going to [...] […] other news, we’re heading out tonight to go to the bar where one of the burlesque dancer works a couple of nights a week. She told us she’d be there tonight. So, we’re going to […]

]]> Comment on What a day… by crystal http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/10/what-a-day/#comment-65 crystal Fri, 13 Apr 2007 02:09:00 +0000 http://www.thedatingcouple.com/2007/04/10/what-a-day/#comment-65 Hi Nina, I did. ;) And yes, the indorphins have been doing wonders. Hope you are doing well. Crystal Hi Nina,

I did. ;) And yes, the indorphins have been doing wonders.

Hope you are doing well.

Crystal

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